Why is this happening to me?

Yaya Maria is am extremely compassionate and sensitive to clients in difficult, painful and challenging situations and understands the anxiety and the feelings behind this question.
Sometimes we are our own worst enemy and often it is hard for us to make the right choices and sacrifices needed to make our lives better.
In any spiritual work, the spirits will bring positive changes, but sometimes they do not just hand you your wish, you must put your own effort, energy, focus, and gratitude in your request.
Spiritual work will not be a substitute or a quick fix to poor choices and a lack of personal responsibility.
Uncontrollable spending habits, laziness, excessive drinking, drug abuse, hurt, harm or abuse your partner until they leave you, then stalk them because you can’t understand why they want nothing to do with you, mistreatment of your children, disrespect of your elders,  just to name a few, these are choices that led you to the situation you are now and unless you start working towards improving and making amendments, no spirit will come to bail you out and fix the mess for you to continue your own destructive behavior.
To blame spirits for your dangerous choices is just another way to refuse responsibility for your own actions.